3 Ways to Slow Down and Take Better Care of Yourself

PHILOSOPHY OF LIFE

Original Post By Sheila Viers – Peace of Life

Your body is precious. It is your vehicle for awakening. Treat it with care.” ~Buddha

It’s interesting how easily we forget to appreciate the simple day-to-day luxuries that we are granted with our body.

  • We assume that as we exhale, there will always be an inhalation to follow.
  • We assume that when we lay our head down on our pillow at night, our heart will beat, our blood will flow, and we will open our eyes in the morning.

We go on day after day, running around with a mile-long to-do list without taking a moment to check in with our body to acknowledge how it’s feeling today.

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Oftentimes, our health and well-being end up last on that list of priorities.

We pretend we are superhuman, existing on caffeine from Starbucks in place of adequate sleep and snacks from the vending machine in place of meals.

Maybe (hopefully) you haven’t gotten to this extreme yet, but a lot of us are. And I bet you can relate to this lack of self-care and preservation at least on some level.

Sorry to burst all of our bubbles, but this style of living is not sustainable (nor is it healthy, but you already knew that). We can’t go on like this, ignoring our health and well-being forever, as hard as we may try.

When we go-go-go without giving our body the nourishment and care that it needs to thrive, our body begins to give us the sign that it needs attention.

  • Hey, take care of me.
  • Hey, I need rest.
  • Hey, let’s slow down

Ahem, I’m serious. I’m really exhausted, foggy, and need some downtime.

It’s starts out as fatigue, but then we don’t listen. So it gets a little louder, and then louder, until eventually we have no other option but to slow down and rest. Think sickness, or worse, dis-ease.

I’ve been on this kick lately, talking and thinking a lot about how we measure ourselves up against these standards that are set so high, not even a super hero could measure up.

We strive for perfection in the eyes of our peers at the expense of our health and true happiness.

For what? What are we trying to prove? We believe that once we hit that pinnacle of success then we can relax, be happy, be good enough, and will have made it.

But the reality is that the only finish line is death, and those things that we think are going to finally prove that we are important aren’t. It’s human nature to want more. And chasing validation to prove our worthiness is the biggest “Silent Killer” of all.

There is nothing we need to prove to anyone. We are worthy now. Who we are and where we are right now is enough.

This moment, right here, is where our pot of gold is. We just have to give ourselves permission to see it as so.

And without our health, how could we ever experience these beautiful things that make life so meaningful?

It’s often last on our list of priorities, and yet, when you stop and think about it, our health is the most important of all.

Our body is our vehicle. It is what allows us to experience life. It’s our five senses, our ability to laugh and feel joy, to embrace our loved ones, to share an intimate connection, to sing, to dance, and play.

There would be no such thing as life without this body. Yet, often we treat it so poorly.
For years I would treat my body worse than any enemy. I would talk to it with disrespect and hatred. I would say things about my body that I would never in a million years say about a loved one.

I would deprive it of food, and then binge out of comfort, sometimes on food, other times on alcohol.

I would go periods without much sleep and not much movement and exercise, and then during other periods of my life I would exercise for hours in hopes of changing the way my body looked because in my eyes, it wasn’t good enough.

It’s hard for me to think back to the abuse I put my body through. This body that has always been there for me, supporting me through it all.

This body that today is so vibrant, so alive, so beautiful—to think of how hard I was on it. It just goes to show you how amazing this miracle of a machine the human body truly is. It can recover and rebuild from so much.

If you can relate and you aren’t sure how to start treating your body the way it deserves to be treated, I am here to help (and as you can see, I speak from experience).

Here are three steps to upping your self-care game so you can treat your precious body like the gift that it is.

1. Nourish It

I love the word nourishment as it applies to all things related to well-being, healing, and self-care. Nourish your body in every way you can—with nutrient-rich, tasty food, movement, and even mentally, with supportive, loving thoughts.

ACTION STEP

Take an inventory of all of these areas (food, movement, thoughts/self-talk). In what ways can you step up your game and choose options that are more nourishing to your body and spirit?

Make those adjustments and pay attention to the difference in how you feel. Continue to refine and adjust until your life as a whole is filled with experiences and things that fill you up and energize you rather than exhaust you.

2. Calendar It

The key to making time for self-care is treating it like any other VIP appointment. Things like workouts, cooking yourself a nourishing, tasty meal, exercise, massage, time with friends, romantic evenings with your partner, and fun with the kids are all important “fill-you-up” type activities.

Prioritize your priorities by carving out the time in your schedule for the things that matter to you most.

ACTION STEP

Pull out your calendar and take a look at where you spend the majority of your time. Now think about this for a moment: What are your top three priorities?

Evaluate whether or not the things you spend the majority of your time doing match up with what’s most important to you.

Make adjustments as necessary to block out time for self-care and the other things that are most important to you in life.

You may need to bow out of some commitments or hand off some responsibilities that are not important for you yourself to be taking care of, in order to create this space in your schedule for the things that do matter most.

3. Start Single-Tasking

We multitask a lot, which you probably don’t know is tough on the body. For example, it’s hard for your body to prepare for and focus on the process of eating and digestion when you are trying to do it while driving, reading, or doing any of the other things we try to do while eating.

Create an environment of ease and relaxation for your body as often as possible, especially while eating.

I know in this day and age that might seem impossible, but it’s not. The key is in stripping away some of those responsibilities and “trying to measure up” type things we do in order to create more time for being present.

ACTION STEP

Multitask less, be present in the moment more. Life is so much more enjoyable when you are engaged and present versus on your phone texting, Facebooking, or talking to somebody that is not even present with you, all of the time.

So often I look around while I’m at a restaurant and I see tables upon tables of people sitting there across from each other, but rather than connecting, talking, and being present with each other, they are both looking down typing on their phones.

It’s so confusing to me. Why do we even get together in person if the person we’re with isn’t actually who we want to be connecting with?

Put down your phone, look somebody in the eye, and have a moment together. Trust me, it’s way more rewarding than whatever communicating you are doing on your phone. Text later, engage in this moment more.

The more you practice taking really good care of your body, the more it will reward you with good health, tons of clarity, energy, and the ability to experience all the good that life has to offer for years to come!

Treat your precious body with love and kindness. This is your body—yours—and it’s the only one you’ve got.

You Don’t Need a Guru; Life isYour Greatest Teacher

 PHILOSOPHY OF LIFE

Source: Peaceful of Life

“Forget what hurt you, but never forget what taught you.” ~Unknown

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We don’t find the answers when we find the guru; we find them along the way, as part of our journey.

I read a tribute Elizabeth Gilbert wrote for Richard from Texas who features in her book Eat, Pray, Love. It got me thinking that our teachers in life can take many forms and not always an obvious ‘traditional’ teacher.

In Eat, Pray, Love Liz went looking for a guru in India but learned a whole host of lessons from Richard, who was probably there seeking out the same guru for his own answers.

We can go through life looking for gurus, trying to learn from the experts, and seeking out those who seemingly have the answers to our questions, but what we often overlook is that the answers are there all along.

Sometimes a guru may help us uncover the answers within, but there is also so much more that those we meet and our experiences along the way can teach us about life’s journey.

The lessons can come from our kids, our partners, our friends, our enemies, and most of all from ourselves.

We can be our own teachers if we allow ourselves to learn from our mistakes.

A monk once told me there are no mistakes, only lessons, and we are a product of the lessons we’ve learned. As Thich Nhat Hanh says, “Without the mud there can be no lotus.”

We grow stronger from our challenges; we learn or to grow from these experiences, and this is what makes us who we are.

I’ve traveled around the world to various retreat centers, sat on many hill tops, and consulted a few gurus, but the answers I sought I found within me when I arrived home, stopped searching, and sat still long enough to notice them.

This led me to rebuild my life around my passion and fill it with meaning and purpose. I became a yoga teacher and was thrilled to be doing a job I loved, but in the early days I struggled. Marketing was not my strong point and the numbers for my classes were low, sometimes non existent.

As I sat in an empty room one night with my lesson plan, feeling defeated, I thought to myself, “What can I learn from this?”

I try to ask myself this question often, but especially when times get tough. Life is not always easy. Things sometimes don’t go to plan, and often we don’t succeed until we’ve learned a lesson and tried again, failed more, failed better.

I have learned valuable lessons from people who’ve come in and out of my life (often for only fleeting encounters). I’ve learned both from failed relationships and those that have evolved over different parts of my life to be stronger now than they ever were.

A friend’s betrayal taught me about forgiveness. A friend’s love has taught me about trust. My nephew taught me the importance of making time for play, and my pets taught me the power of unconditional love.

Depression taught me that it’s through the cracks the light gets in, and burnout taught me about my real priorities and the value of self-care. A house fire taught me about attachment, and a homeless man taught me to be grateful for the little things I have.

Success is a product of learning from experiences and failures—a product of our life, our experiences, and the people we meet along the way. This is the stuff that shapes us and builds our world, it comes from within, not from an expert or a guru.

Yes, we have formal teachers we can learn from—our parents, our schools, our gurus, those we aspire to and admire. But never underestimate the power of the lessons ‘ordinary’ people will teach us, the likes of Richard from Texas and indeed the lessons we learn from ourselves and our experiences as we navigate through life.

So take a moment and ask yourself what you can learn from your current circumstances and the people in your life. Whatever, or whoever, you’re struggling with could very well be your greatest teacher—and a stepping stone to greater peace, purpose, and happiness.

When You Start to Enjoy Being Alone, These 10 Things Will Happen

PHILOSOPHY OF LIFE

Source: Peaceful of Life

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Toxins, which are a poisonous substance that can cause damage to cells are first taken on by

  • Phase 1 of Liver Detoxification, this phase involves using enzymes to transform these lipid-soluble toxins into less harmful substances that Phase 2 can now handle.
  • Phase 2 of Liver Detoxification involves pairing these battered up toxins with other molecules which increase their water-solubility so they can be safely removed from the body through the means of elimination.

Efforts in Proactive Liver Support are for Everyone

Even for those who make a concentrated effort to follow a healthy lifestyle which revolves around organics, pure water, regular exercise, use of toxin-free personal care and cleaning products.. We are still exposed to toxins from our environment (air, soil, water, cars, factories, plastics) and these factors, while we cannot control them – affect us!

Even as a Holistic Nutritionist, I will continue to practice daily routines on top of eating clean, exercising and living in my little toxin-free home – because I know I need to, and it makes me feel amazing!

Is Your Liver Feeling Sluggish

When the liver becomes sluggish, toxins are no longer able to leave the body and are instead stored in fat tissue (since they are lipid-soluble) and they will hang out there until liver function improves and they can be safely eliminated. This can be a huge factor as to why you aren’t shedding extra weight even with a healthy diet and exercise.

There is a variety of tell-tale symptoms of a stressed out liver, regardless of the degree of your symptoms, by taking holistic approaches and preventative steps you have the ability to improve your liver function and improve your quality of life (because you deserve to feel good).

If you experience the following symptoms, don’t stop reading – there are some tips to follow for improving liver function which I encourage you to practice in your daily routine.

  • Chronic Fatigue
  • Negative Emotions
  • Brain Fog/Lethargy/Feeling Drained
  • Dull Headaches Improved with Rest or Headaches/Migraines Behind Eyes
  • Chronic Joint or Muscle Pain
  • Excessive Perspiration
  • Trouble Digesting Fats
  • Gall Bladder Removed
  • Allergies
  • Acne or Skin Conditions
  • Gas, Bloating, Abdominal Pain, Constipation, Diarrhea
  • Hormonal Imbalances
  • Anxiety and Depression
  • Chemical Sensitivities
  • Chronic Stinky Breath
  • Unexplained Weight Gain

Tips for the Kitchen (where the magic happens)

Your health begins in the kitchen, you cannot expect your body to thrive on supplements alone. We need to create a healthy body through healing meals and habits. You don’t need to diet, restrict or eliminate entirely – the key here is balance.

First begin by reducing or eliminating your exposure to processed foods and fraudulent “health” foods (aka “gluten-free” high sugar/starch products) and switch to healthy substitutions, if you’re craving a brownie, give a black bean brownie, made with cacao and coconut sugar a try instead of reaching for the white flour, refined sugar “traditional” version. Make your own favorite meals from scratch with high-quality ingredients at home, instead of dining out.

Eating healthy doesn’t need to be complicated, focus on the following steps to get on the right track:

  • Buy Organic, avoid GMO and Shop Clean using the Dirty Dozen/Clean 15
  • Consume a balanced diet which consists of whole foods, high quality animal and plant proteins, sprouted ancient grains, fermented foods, healing fats, raw nuts and seeds
  • Eliminate inflammatory oils: canola, corn, soybean, vegetable oil, cottonseed, safflower, sunflower
  • Drink Enough Pure Water: If you take your weight in pounds, and divide it in half, this is the amount of water you should be drinking in ounces (150lbs = 75oz). Source out your best pure accessible water, whether it be reverse osmosis (remineralized) or self harvested spring water.

Increase consumption of healthy healing fats: coconut oil, sustainable red palm oil, ghee, grass-fed butter, avocado, hemp

  • Get in enough fibre: 35g daily minimum – coming from whole food sources such as chia seeds, artichokes, golden flax seeds, avocado, broccoli and brussels sprouts
  • Eliminate refined sugars: brown/white sugar, cane sugar, cane juice, cane juice crystals, beet sugar
  • Restrict fructose Consumption to 20g – 25g Per Day: agave, glucose-fructose (high fructose corn syrup), high glycemic/fructose fruits
  • Increase Leafy Green Vegetable Consumption: for their magnesium, folate, vitamin C and B-vitamin content
  • Include Animal-Based and Plant-Based sources for Amino Acids: bone broth, collagen, pasture-raised chicken & eggs, raw spinach, parsley, cabbage, beets
  • Focus on Food Sources of Sulfur: pasture-raised eggs, broccoli, brussels sprouts, garlic, onions, asparagus, kale
  • Limit or Eliminate Alcohol: if you are experiencing 3 or more of the above symptoms find a healthy replacement for this (toxic) habit, such as grape kombucha.
    The 3 Superstars for Your Liver

Globe Artichoke

This vegetable is a member of the thistle family. If you want to see something very pretty look up an “artichoke flower”. This veggie is in the same family as Milk Thistle, with the main difference being that you can include this in your diet! Beneficial properties include protecting and supporting liver function and increasing bile production, their high fibre content also promotes flushing out bile and reducing LDL cholesterol.

Even when cooked, artichokes contain more antioxidant potential than raw garlic, asparagus and broccoli. Steam your artichokes and pair them with some ghee or coconut oil, raw garlic and Himalayan salt for a liver supporting meal

Turmeric

This most clinically tested herb for inflammation. It’s active ingredient, curcumin has been linked to many benefits which include assisting the enzymes which are responsible for flushing out known dietary carcinogens! This results in enhanced protection against liver damage, and even regeneration of affected liver cells due to its antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties.

Always pair turmeric with a source of healthy fats and black pepper for maximum absorption, also look for these two keys for best absorption in a supplement. Take a high quality turmeric/curcumin supplement and give golden milk a try, a beverage with freshly grated turmeric root, plant milk, coconut oil, black pepper and warming spices.
Milk Thistle

By far the most suggested herb for liver health, in fact this herb has gotten so much attention in the health food world that I put it third just to give the other superstars a chance. Siymarin, which is the active component in milk thistle has anti-fibrotic, anti-viral, antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties (which explain it’s fame). Milk thistle protects the liver cells from damage which can be caused by viruses, toxins, alcohol and drugs such as acetaminophen.

Take a high-quality milk thistle supplement that is free from GMO, unnecessary binders and fillers. You can also find fermented milk thistle in a liquid form which can be added to a cold-pressed vegetable juice or taken as is.

In conclusion…

Your liver does a lot for you, and these are just a few things that you can do to support its function. Be mindful of how you are feeling throughout your day, remember that a symptom is your body telling you that something is wrong and make the appropriate preventative steps.

I recommend cleansing with the change of seasons, as the colon stimulating component of cleansing is of much value to the liver and for your other systems of detoxification. Remain aware and be in control, you can’t live without your liver, so give it some love!

5 Reasons Why Losing Friends as You Get Older is actually a Good Thing

PHILOSOPHY OF LIFE

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If you are scared of losing your friends and aren’t exactly ready for what the future has in store, well, we have some good news and some bad news for you.

The good news is that you will be a much different individual, have an entirely new life, and most likely will have seen new faces and places that you will want to revisit someday.

The bad news is that you are going to have to let go of some of your old friends in order for that change to actually take place. Change is not necessarily a bad thing , but should be an opportunity for you to learn something you’ve never known before.

1. Guard-up

The more you get older, the more you will realize how protective you are of everything in your life that you hold value in. You may begin to put up walls, have expectations, standards, and you will no longer wish to expose those pieces of yourself to just anyone. However, with the new friends you make as you grow into your age, they will cherish the things you say and do. You will find new interests in the people you associate with and begin to develop meaningful relationships with them.

2. Well-traveled

Once you become older, you will have become so experienced with the world that you’ve learned how to rely on some of your friends for certain things, and you’ve even demonstrated what it means to be hospitable to your loved ones. However, there is going to come a time where you recognize that some of those things aren’t really necessary in your life anymore. You may have to let those people go in order to move on with your new ways of life.

3. Meaningful Relationships

Even though you may lose some of your old friends as you age, if doesn’t mean that you won’t find meaningful relationships with any other people. This is the opposite of the actual truth. As you become older, you will find new things to talk about, new topics that interests you, and places that you’ve been before. You will enjoy talking about all of the things you’ve done previously. People love to hear of your travels, so why not make some to tell your new friends?

4. No Time

The more you become older the more you will begin to realize that you practically have zero time to spare on anything fun you want to do. Maybe that’s an over-exaggeration, but at the same time, depending on who it is, your life may become one of the most fast paced races you’ve ever been in. Whatever the case, it’s important to manage your time wisely and realize that everything will get done in due time. This also goes for the people in your life. You will soon begin to decide who is worth your time and who is not.

5. Despise Insincerity

When you were younger, being insincere came naturally to you. As children, we are all a little insincere to the people in our lives, and more often than not, to our friends. However, as you grow older, you will begin to have zero tolerance for it. You will not handle rudeness well and will want to be the voice of reason when it comes to arguing with someone who is being insincere. You will find yourself longing for honest conversations instead of ones that are aimed to hurt you or just don’t go anywhere.

Hopefully this has helped you get over some of your fears of getting older. Just remember to take things in stride. Do your best to go with the flow, and be as resilient as you possibly can.