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How to Live the Best Life Possible


On this Spot, Sadhguru cautions that setting goals means depriving yourself of greater possibilities. If you want to lead a truly successful life, there is a better way to approach it, he points out, and offers a simple method towards this objective. He also explains why the mentality of “doing less, getting more” not only means deceiving others, but above all, yourself.

If you become conscious, you will do your best.

There are two ways to address your life. One way is to set goals and go for them. What kind of goals will you set? Something that you are impressed with in the world, something that you have not yet done, something that is yet to be in your life. You are trying to be like someone else or do something that someone else is doing. Whatever goals you arrive at, they are all in some way within the limitations of what you already know, or maybe a little exaggerated versions thereof. Is it not tragic to spend a whole year trying to achieve what you already know? My intention is things that you do not know should happen to you. Things that you have never imagined should enter your life. Only then will your life be truly enriched. What is the point of only doing things that you already know?

When it comes to financial or physical things that you want to achieve, maybe if it matters to you, you can set up such goals. Personally, I think even that is a waste of life. Suppose you have a million dollars and your goal is to have a billion dollars by the end of the year. If it doesn’t happen, it’s a good thing because you have lived in that hope. But if it happens, let’s say in January itself, then what will you do? You will want to make it ten billion dollars. There was a time when you could be happy with one dollar. Now for the same happiness, you need a million dollars. That’s called inflation. That’s not enhancement of life.

All that you do with life is create inflation. Inflation is neither good for the economy nor for your life. In physics, inflation means filling up something, like you inflate the tires of a car with air. But in economics, inflation means certain parameters go out of control. Now you are consciously causing inflation in your life – that is not an intelligent way to go about it. By setting time-bound goals, you may achieve a few things, but it will be of no consequence to the life that you are.

Instead of setting goals for the whole year, just set this one thing: By the end of the day, you must be a little more joyful, a little more enhanced, a little better. This will not work as a goal – it is better to look at it in retrospect. Tomorrow evening, just check, “Am I a little better than yesterday?” Just look at these twenty-four hours – it will make you more conscious. This is not about you being joyful or peaceful. This is about you being conscious of as many aspects of your life as possible.

By the end of the day, you must be a little more joyful, a little more enhanced, a little better.

You will do your best about whatever you are conscious of. Most of the nonsense happens because you are unconscious about so many things. All we need to do is to become conscious about everything – about our own nature, our mental states, our emotional states, our life, our physical situations, our financial situations, our ecological situations. If you become conscious, you will do your best. That’s all you need to do in life. But right now, you believe that unless you create a tension, you will not achieve anything. To get from where you are to where your goal is, you create a tension – it is like a rubber band effect. You try to keep moving from one place to another. From one level of social status to another. From one financial status to another. From one educational status to another. This is no different from how the caveman was, how hunters and gatherers were – “gather as much as you can.”

In those days, they piled up bones, feathers, and the like. Now maybe you are thinking of stocks, shares, and property. Maybe you are thinking of conquering another nation. On a material level, it looks different, but fundamentally, it is the same rudimentary thought of accumulating things. All this accumulation would make sense, had you organized transport to take all these things with you when you die. Having your own furniture in Heaven or especially in Hell would be great. Otherwise, who knows – maybe they will give you this chair with a straight back that you don’t like, so taking your own sofa with you would be great.

Anything that you gather, whether it is your knowledge, your wealth, your relationships, or whatever else, is only of value for the current transactions. If you keep it active, it will facilitate a few things for you. It has social consequence, but it has no life consequence. Instead of setting goals, it is best you find ways to nourish this life that you are. If you are nourishing this life, you only have to measure the growth. Suppose you plant a mango tree. If you set the goal that by the end of 2018, it must bear a thousand fruits, otherwise you will cut it down, all that will happen is you will cut the tree. The way to do it is to see how to nurture this tree in the best possible way, and to do that. Don’t worry about getting a thousand fruits. Whatever best can come out will come out of it. If you nourish it in a certain way, it may be more than you can imagine.

…life works best when you throw yourself into it, without bothering about what comes back.

It is not good to set goals in any sphere of life, because you will only be doing something that you already know. Nothing completely new will happen in your life. I think that’s a tragedy. Your dreams coming true is no good. If what you could not even dare to dream of becomes a reality – that’s a fantastic life. Results will happen depending on how well you handle the process of life, as well as on the times and on where you are. Today you may put in a certain amount of effort, and you will earn a million dollars. A thousand years ago, someone ten times smarter than you put in a lot of effort, but still he only earned a small amount. But this comparison is not the point. The important thing is that for the times he lived in, he yielded the best he could. For the times you live in, are you yielding the best you can? That is the question.

I know every management school is talking about setting goals. But goals are not set for themselves – they are set to drive other people. There are a lot of people who will never do their best – they are always under par. They are not conscious enough to understand that as a human being, you must do the best you can in your life. Otherwise, life will be wasted. For such people, you have to set goals. If you are a donkey, the less you do, the smarter you are, because there are no other possibilities for you beyond eating, reproducing, sleeping, hanging around, and dying one day. Because there are no possibilities, the less you do, the better. Too many people have adopted this donkey philosophy. They think if they do less and get more, they are doing well. In reality, they are just stupid. They are missing the whole possibility of life.

Human life really happens if you throw yourself into everything. If you hold back, you will miss life. If you do not give yourself totally to what you are doing, you don’t deceive someone else –you only deceive yourself of life. Once, bad times came upon Shankaran Pillai. He was a construction laborer, doing menial work to earn a living. He had to carry twenty-five bricks on a board, take them up three floors, put them there, come back down again, and so on. But after some time, once the foreman was gone, Shankaran Pillai started carrying the same set of bricks up and down. People who were working with him watched this and said, “Hey, why are you bringing back the bricks?” “Well, the foreman is not looking, right?” “But now you are carrying the bricks both ways, you idiot! Otherwise, at least coming down, you would not have had to carry the load.”

It is not good to set goals in any sphere of life, because you will only be doing something that you already know.

This is what happens if you try to do less – simple things will become burdensome in your life. People are having so much trouble just going to the office and doing nine-to-five work. They are not managing the company. They are not managing the government. It’s just a chunk of work that someone has given them, just for a living – how complicated they are making that! From that, they are getting high blood pressure and their heart is breaking. You must see the scenes that happen in families. Just two people living together – how complicated! Little children – how much suffering they cause! Only once in a way, they are a joy – the rest of the time, people suffer them immensely.

Their work, their children, their spouses, their homes, their jobs, their driving – people suffer just about everything. This happens because they are not conscious enough to understand that life works best when you throw yourself into it, without bothering about what comes back. Life happens because of your involvement, not because of what you get. What are you going to do with what you get? The only sick pleasure you could have is if you compare yourself with someone else who has less than you. If you want to know and enjoy life, if you want to explore the full potential of this life, the only way is through absolute involvement. Let us see what will come out of it. If it is winter, nothing comes out of the earth. In springtime, with a little effort, a lot comes out. The same goes with life.

The biggest mistake people make is to be goal-oriented. If you set yourself the goal to get enlightened by 2018, you will be totally messed up by the end of the year. If you just do what you have to do, life will naturally flower.

May the coming year bring the Best to you.



7 Important Life Lessons You Should Never Forget

By Sadhguru


Life Lesson #1: Kill the Lies

Sadhguru: Just spend a minute to identify at least one thing in your life that is not necessary and kill that today. When I say “kill,” don’t start thinking about your boss, mother-in-law or neighbor. You must kill something about you that is unnecessary for your life. Something like “I will kill my anger” would be too general and this is not something that you can achieve by determination – this requires consciousness.

Identify something specific that you will be better off without, where you can take a concrete step today – it does not matter how small it is. Choose one specific little thing that you will not do anymore, no matter what. “I will not be angry” would be a lie, because this is not yet in your control but it could be something like, “I will not speak angry words.”

Decide on something that you can do and that you will do. This is how to transform your life – by taking small steps. But you should actually do it – it should not pop up again. If you kill something, it should be dead. If you want to move towards the truth of life, your investment in that which is not true has to be reduced. It may not all vanish immediately, but you must reduce it step-by-step.

Decide on something that you can do and that you will do. This is how to transform your life – by taking small steps.

Life Lesson #2: Break the Status Quo

Look at life in terms of what can be changed and do something about it. Crying about things that you cannot change is a sure strategy to remain at status quo. At least once a month, every full moon day, consciously look at this and identify one small thing about yourself that you want to change. Like, “Every time before I eat, I will spend 10 seconds in gratitude for this food which is going to become a part of me.” Or, “Every time I use anything that is an essential element of my life, like the soil, the water, the air, and everything else around me, I will save 1% of it.” Or, “I will see to it that I only put on my plate what I can eat.” These small things will change your life and set you apart.

Life Lesson #3: Remember You are Mortal

A significant thing every human being has to do is structure their psychological and emotional framework around the most fundamental fact of their life – their mortality. Right now, it takes a lifetime for people to understand that they are mortal; they need a heart attack or the appearance of a malignant lump somewhere to remind them.

You need to celebrate and enjoy every moment of your life because life does not wait for you even for a moment. If you were immortal, you could enjoy a hundred years each of depression, anxiety, madness and misery and then on the 500th anniversary, you could become joyful. But that is not the case. You are mortal and it is ticking away. So there is no time for frustration, depression, anxiety, anger or for any unpleasantness in this life.

In the ashram I always tell people, no matter what work you are doing, every day you must stick your fingers into the earth at least for an hour. This will build a natural physical memory, a bodily memory in you that you are mortal.

You are mortal and it is ticking away. So there is no time for frustration, depression, anxiety, anger or for any unpleasantness in this life.

Life Lesson #4: Choose to Live Intelligently

Within yourself, is it more pleasant to be loving, or to be angry, hateful and jealous? Which is a more intelligent way to exist? Loving, isn’t it? All I am saying is, please live intelligently. This is not for someone else’s sake. It is pleasant and beautiful for you. Creating a loving world is not a service that you do for someone else. It is an intelligent way to exist.

You can create a loving world in every single activity that you do in your life. Creating a loving world does not mean doing something more or less. If you live your life constantly focused on what you want, it will unquestionably happen in your immediate surroundings, and it will also begin to happen in the larger surroundings.

Life Lesson #5: Determine the Quality of Your Life

In many ways, most people’s happiness, peace and love are mortgaged to the external situation. So, if the stock market goes up you are happy, if the stock market goes down you are unhappy. But the quality of life is not about what is around you. Our ability to live joyfully here does not depend on the size of the house we live in or the car that we drive. These things make your life comfortable and convenient but the essential quality of your life is how you are within yourself right now.

Living joyfully and peacefully is not new to you. You were like that as a child, isn’t it? So, I am not talking about taking you beyond, I am just talking about starting at the square one of your life.

Life Lesson #6: There is Intelligence in Humility

The difference between a fool and an intelligent person is that an intelligent person knows how foolish he is; a fool does not. Noticing the stupidity of who you are is great intelligence. Anything in this existence – a tree, a blade of grass, a grain of sand, one single atom – do you understand any of these things fully? No. When this is your level of intelligence and perception, how should you walk in the world? Gently, with a little humility, respect and love for everything around you. If not love, then at least with awe, because you don’t understand a damn thing in this world.

If you just learn to walk like this, you will not escape a spiritual process. You don’t need any teaching. It will happen to you anyway. This is why in the eastern cultures, always, you bow down to whatever you see, whether it is a rock, an animal or a human being. Being in reverence towards the very earth that you walk upon, towards the air that you breathe, the water that you drink, the food that you eat, the people that you come in touch with and everything else that you use, including your body and mind, is a way of ensuring success in every endeavor that we partake in.

Life Lesson #7: There is no Good and Bad

Your inner world – if you want to call it that – should only be a reflection of what is around you. This may be diametrically opposite to some moral theories that say the outer and the inner should not touch each other, otherwise you would immediately get corrupted by everything around you. That is not true. You get corrupted by what is around you only when you have opinions about everything.

You look at one thing as good, something else as bad. You get attached to what you consider as good. You desperately try to avoid what you consider as bad, and of course that will rule you from inside. This is not the way to be. Seeing everything just the way it is – that is the way to be within. If you see something other than what is there, it means you are contaminating the world with your opinions and prejudices.

Creation is made so that you see it the way it is, not to make it the way you want to make it. This is an obscenity that humanity is committing upon the Creator’s creation. Such a magnificent creation – what is there for you to do? Absorb it if you can – nothing more – and even that is not simple because creation is phenomenally multi-tiered. So many phenomena are happening right here – one inside the other, all in one space, all in one time.

Everything that you think is past, everything that you think will be future is right here. If you see everything the way it is, if the whole creation reflects within you, if you can contain creation the way it is within you, you become the very source of creation. That is the way to be, inside and outside.

Seeing everything just the way it is – that is the way to be within. If you see something other than what is there, it means you are contaminating the world with your opinions and prejudices.

Datang Sendiri, Pergi Sendiri

Datang Sendiri, Pergi Sendiri. Written By Kebajikan ( De 德 ) on Jumat, 24 Januari 2014



KEBAJIKAN ( De 德 ) – Waktu kita lahir, kita datang sendiri, tiada yang menemani.Kita datang dengan karma dan dosa kita sendiri. Ketika napas terakhir tiba, kita pergi sendiri, membawa dosa dan karma, tiada yang menemani….

Suka atau tidak kita harus menerima segala duka derita hidup ini. Sebab kita yang melakukan karma dan kitalah yang menerima buah akibatnya…kita bertanggung jawab pada apa yang telah kita lakukan.

Pada hakekatnya, kita selalu sendirian, tidak ada siapa siapa yang dapat mendampingi kita, sebab tidak ada ibu-bapak yang selamanya…Tidak ada suami-isteri dan putera-puteri yang abadi di dunia

Inilah hakekat kehidupan. Seberapa banyak pun harta yang Anda miliki, Seberapa pun tinggi jabatan Anda, dan Seberapa pun erat hubungan anak isteri dengan Anda, pada akhirnya, semuanya harus dilepaskan.

Tinggal Anda sendiri…Sendiri menjalani kelahiran dan kematian, sendiri berkelana dan menderita dalam penderitaan dari kalpa tahun tak terhitung yang lalu hingga kalpa tahun tak terhitung yang akan datang, Anda selalu sendirian…

Inilah sebabnya mengapa Anda membutuhkan Kasih dan kebenaran Tuhan yang abadi… Salam kebajikan.


Kalpa adalah satuan waktu yang sangat panjang dalam ajaran Hindu dan Buddha.

Kalpa menurut agama Buddha

Dalam ajaran agama Buddha, ada empat Kalpa yang memiliki jangka waktu yang berbeda, yakni:

  1. Kalpa skala tetap (dasar perhitungan), berjalan selama 16 juta tahun
  2. Kalpa skala kecil, (1000 × 16 juta) berjalan selama 16 miliar tahun
  3. Kalpa menengah, (20 × 16 miliar) berjalan selama 320 miliar tahun
  4. Kalpa skala besar, (4 × 320 miliar) berjalan selama 12,8 triliun tahun

Buddha tidak berbicara tentang jangka pasti kalpa dalam tahun. Akan tetapi, Ia memberikan beberapa analogi untuk mengerti hal tersebut.

Bayangkan sebuah tabung kosong pada awal mula kalpa, kurang lebih 16 mil pada setiap sisinya. Setiap 100 tahun, kita memasukan biji mustard kecil di dalam tabung tersebut. Menurut Sang Buddha, tabung yang besar tersebut akan penuh sebelum 1 masa kalpa berakhir.

Bayangkan sebuah batu yang sangat besar/raksasa pada awal mula kalpa kurang lebih 16 x 16 x 16 mil. Kita mengambil sebuah batu kecil dan menyapu gunung tersebut sekali dalam 100 tahun. Menurut Sang Buddha, gunung yang besar tersebut akan habis sebelum 1 masa kalpa berakhir.

Beberapa bhante ingin mengetahui berapa banyak kalpa yang telah berlalu sejauh ini. Sang Buddha memberikan analogi sebagai berikut:

Jika kita menghitung jumlah total partikel pasir pada sepanjang sungai Gangga. dari hulu sungai sampai ia berakhir di laut, jumlah tersebut akan lebih sedikit daripada jumlah kalpa yang telah berlalu.


Fakta Kehidupan

Fakta Kehidupan Oleh Ven. Narada Maha Thera. 


Datang Sendiri …. Pergi Sendiri


Kita hidup dalam dunia yang tidak seimbang. Dunia yang tidak seluruhnya berisi bunga mawar atau pun seluruhnya berduri. Bunga mawar itu lembut, indah dan harum, tetapi tangkainya penuh dengan duri. Bagaimanapun, orang tidak akan meremehkan bunga mawar karena ada duri-durinya.

Bagi orang yang optimis, dunia ini seluruhnya berisi bunga mawar, bagi seorang yang pesimis, dunia in seluruhnya berduri. Tapi untuk seorang realistis, dunia ini tidak seluruhnya berisi bunga mawar ataupun seluruhnya berduri. Baginya dunia berisi keduanya, bunga mawar yang indah dan duri-duri yang tajam.


Orang yang mengerti tidak akan terbius oleh keindahan bunga mawar, tapi ia akan melihatnya sebagaimana adanya. Dengan mengetahui dengan baik sifat dari duri-duri, ia pun akan melihat mereka sebagaimana adanya dan akan berhati-hati agar tidak terluka.

Bagaikan bandul yang terus menerus bergoyang ke kiri dan kanan, empat keadaan yang diinginkan dan empat keadaan yang tidak diinginkan terus berlangsung di dunia ini. Setiap orang dalam hidupnya tanpa kecuali akan menghadapi keadaan-keadaan ini. Keadaan ini adalah keuntungan dan kerugian, terkenal akan kebaikan dan terkenal akan keburukan, pujian dan celaan, kegembiraan dan kesedihan.

Keuntungan Dan Kerugian

Pengusaha, sesuai hukumnya , akan mengalami keuntungan maupun kerugian. Adalah hal yang wajar bahwa seorang akan merasa puas diri ketika ia memperoleh keuntungan. Dalam hal ini tidak ada yang salah. Keuntungan baik legal maupun ilegal menghasilkan kenikmatan dalam jumlah tertentu yang dicari oleh umat manusia biasa.

Tanpa saat-saat yang menyenangkan, bagaimanapun singkatnya, hidup tak akan berarti. Dalam dunia yang kacau dan penuh persaingan, adalah benar bahwa orang hendaknya menikmati beberapa jenis kegembiraan yang menyenangkan hatinya. Kegembiraan ini, walaupun secara materil, akan membantu meningkatkan kesehatan dan umur penjang.

Masalah akan timbul jika kerugian terjadi. Keuntungan diterima dengan gembira, tapi tidak demikian halnya dengan kerugian. Kerugian sering menyebabkan penderitaan batin dan kadang kala usaha bunuh diri dilakukan karena karena kerugian yang tidak tertanggulangi. Dalam situasi yang berlawanan inilah, seseorang hendaknya menunjukkan keberanian moral yang tinggi dan mempertahankan keseimbangan batin yang baik. Kita semua pernah mengalami jatuh dan bangun dalam perjuangan hidup. Seseorang hendaknya menyiapkan diri menghadapi yang baik maupun yang buruk, sehingga ia tidak terlalu kecewa.

Ketika sesuatu dicuri, orang umumnya merasa sedih. Tetapi dengan merasa sedih, ia tidak akan dapat mengganti kehilangannya. Ia hendaknya menerima kehilangan itu secara filosofis. Hendaknya ia memiliki sikap yang murah hati dengan berpikir: “Si pencuri lebih membutuhkan barang tersebut daripada saya, semoga ia berbahagia.”

Pada masa Sang Buddha, seorang wanita bangsawan mempersembahkan makanan kepada Yang Ariya Sariputra dan beberapa orang bhikkhu. Ketika melayani mereka, ia menerima pesan yang menyatakan bahwa suatu musibah telah terjadi pada keluarganya. Tanpa menjadi cemas, dengan tenang ia menaruh pesan itu dalam kantung di pinggangnya dan melayani para bhikkhu seolah-olah tidak terjadi apa-apa.

Seorang pelayannya yang membawakan guci berisi mentega(terbuat dari susu kerbau India) untuk dipersembahkan kepada para bhikkhu, secara tidak disengaja tergelincir dan memecahkan guci yang dibawanya. Mengira bahwa sang wanita akan merasa sedih karenanya , Yang Ariya Sariputra menghiburnya dengan berkata bahwa segala sesuatu yang dapat pecah suatu saat pasti akan pecah.

Sang wanita berkata, “Bhante, apalah artinya kehilangan yang tak berarti ini? Saya baru saja menerima pesan yang menyatakan suatu musibah telah menimpa keluarga saya. Saya menerima hal itu tanpa merasa kehilangan keseimbangan batin saya. Saya melayani anda semua walaupun ada berita buruk tersebut.”

Ketabahan semacam ini yang dimiliki wanita tersebut sungguh sangat terpuji. Suatu saat Sang Buddha pergi mencari sedekah di suatu desa. Karena campur tangan Mara, Sang Buddha tidak memperoleh makanan.

Ketika Mara menanyakan apakah Sang Buddha merasa lapar, Sang Buddha dengan agung menerangkan sikap mental mereka yang telah terbebas dari kekotoran batin, dan menjawab, “Ah, betapa bahagianya kita yang hidup terbebas dari kekotoran batin. Sebagai pemberi kebahagiaan, kita bahkan dapat disamakan dengan para dewa di alam cahaya.”

Pada kesempatan lain, Sang Buddha dan para muridnya berdiam selama musim hujan di suatu desa atas undangan seorang brahmana yang ternyata benar-benar lupa akan tugasnya untuk memenuhi kebutuhan Sang Buddha dan Sangha. Selama tiga bulan, walaupan Yang Ariya Monggalana rela berkorban untuk mendapatkan makanan dengan kekuatan batinnya, Sang Buddha tidak mengeluh, dan merasa puas atas rumput makanan kuda yang ditawarkan oleh seorang penjual kuda.

Seseorang yang tidak beruntung harus berusaha untuk menerima kenyataan secara dewasa. Sungguh sayang, orang menghadapi kerugiannya seringkali secara kelompok dan tidak sendirian. Ia harus menghadapinya dengan ketenangan dan memandangnya sebagai suatu kesempatan untuk menumbuhkan kebajikan yang mulia.

Terkenal Akan kebaikan Dan Terkenal Akan Keburukan

Terkenal atas hal yang baik dan terkenal atas hal yang buruk adalah pasangan keadaan lain yang tidak terhindarkan, yang kita hadapi dalam kehidupan kita sehari-hari. Terkenal karena hal yang baik kita terima, terkenal karena hal yang buruk sangat kita benci.

  • Terkenal karena hal yang baik menggembirakan hati kita,
  • Terkenal karena hal yang buruk menyedihkan kita.
  • Kita ingin menjadi terkenal. Kita mendambakan foto kita terpampang di surat kabar.
  • Kita sangat gembira ketika kegiatan kita, bagaimanapun tidak berartinya, dipublikasikan.
  • Kadang kala kita bahkan menginginkan publikasi yang berlebihan.

Banyak orang ingin melihat fotonya di majalah, seberapapun biayanya yang harus dikeluarkannya. Untuk mendapatkan kehormatan, sebagian orang menawarkan hadiah atau memberikan sumbangan besar kepada orang yang berkuasa. Demi ketenaran, sebagian orang memamerkan kedermawanan mereka dengan memberikan sedekah kepada seratus orang bhikkhu atau lebih, tetapi mungkin mereka sama sekali tidak memperdulikan penderitaan orang miskin dan orang yang membutuhkan di lingkungan sekitar mereka. Seseorang dapat mendenda dan menghukum orang yang sangat kelaparan, yang untuk menghilangkan rasa laparnya mencuri sebutir kelapa di kebunnya, tetapi ia tidak ragu-ragu untuk mempersembahkan seribu butir kelapa untuk mendapatkan nama baik.

Inilah kelemahan-kelamahan manusia. Kebanyakan orang memiliki maksud terselubung. Orang yang tidak egois yang bertindak tanpa terpengaruhi oleh perasaannya sangatlah jarang di dunia ini. Kebanyakan orang yang terikat keduniawian memiliki maksud terselubung. Siapakah orang yang sempurna? Berapa banyak orang yang memiliki maksud yang benar-benar murni? Berapa banyak orang yang benar-benar tidak mementingkan diri sendiri dan mendahulukan kesejahteraan dan kebahagiaan orang lain?

Kita tidak perlu memburu ketenaran. Jika kita benar-benar pantas untuk menjadi terkenal, ketenaran akan datang kepada kita tanpa perlu dicari. Kumbang akan tertarik pada bunga yang berisi madu. Bunga sendiri tidak mengundang kumbang.

Tentu saja, kita tidak hanya merasa senang tapi juga sangat bahagia ketika ketenaran kita tersebar. Tetapi kita harus menyadari bahwa ketenaran, kehormatan, dan kekuasaan hanyalah bersifat sementara. Mereka dapat menghilang begitu saja.

Bagaimana dengan ketenaran akan keburukan? Hal ini tidak enak didengar dan mengganggu pikiran. Kita pasti gelisah ketika kata-kata tentang reputasi buruk kita menusuk telinga. Perasaan sakit akan lebih hebat ketika laporan tersebut tidak adil dan fitnah belaka.

Umumnya diperlukan waktu bertahun-tahun untuk mendirikan gedung yang megah. Dalam satu atau dua menit, dengan senjata penghancur modern, dengan mudah gedung itu runtuh. Kadang kala diperlukan waktu bertahun-tahun atau bahkan seumur hidup untuk membangun reputasi yang baik. Dalam waktu singkat nama baik yang diperoleh dengan susah payah itu hancur. Tidak ada orang yang terlepas dari kata penghancur yang dimulai dengan kata ‘tetapi’. “Ya, ia orang baik, dia melakukan ini dan melakukan itu,” tetapi reputasi yang baik ini diperburuk dengan kata ‘tetapi’. Anda mungkin hidup sebagai seorang Buddha tetapi anda tidak akan terlepas dari kritik, serangan, dan hinaan.

Sang Buddha adalah guru yang paling dikenal dan paling sering difitnah dalam masanya. Orang-orang besar sering kali dikenal, walaupun kadang kala mereka dikenal bukan karena hal-hal yang baik. Beberapa orang yang membenci Sang Buddha menyebarkan desas-desus bahwa seorang wanita sering bermalam di vihara. Setelah gagal dalam upaya ini, mereka menyebarkan fitnah diantara penduduk bahwa Sang Buddha dan para muridnya membunuh wanita tersebut dan menyembunyikan mayatnya di timbunan sampah bunga-bunga layu dalam vihara. Para penghasut akhirnya mengakui bahwa merekalah pelakunya.

Ketika misi bersejarah-Nya berhasil dan banyak orang meminta ditahbiskan oleh-Nya, para musuh memfitnah-Nya, dengan berkata bahwa Beliau merebut putra dari para ibu, memisahkan para istri dari suami mereka, dan bahwa Beliau menghambat kemajuan negara.

Gagal dalam usaha-usaha untuk menghancurkan sifat-Nya yang mulia, Sepupu-Nya sendiri Devadatta, murid-Nya yang iri, berusaha membunuh-Nya dengan menggulingkan batu dari atas, tetapi gagal. Jika demikian menyedihkannya nasib Sang Buddha yang sempurna dan tidak bersalah, bagaimanakah nasib dari manusia biasa yang tidak sempurna?

Semakin tinggi anda mendaki bukit, semakin mudah anda terlihat dan tampak dalam mata orang lain. Punggung anda terlihat, tapi bagian depan tersembunyi. Dunia mudah menemukan kesalahan, menunjukkan kegagalan dan keraguan anda, tetapi mangabaikan kebajikan anda yang lebih mudah terlihat. Kipas perontok merontokkan sekam tapi tetap membiarkan padinya, sebaliknya saringan mempertahankan ampas yang kasar dan membiarkan sari buah yang manis mengalir. Orang yang bermoral mengambil bagian yang halus dan menghilangkan bagian yang kasar, Orang yang tidak bermoral memgambil bagian yang kasar, tapi menghilangkan bagian yang halus.

Ketika anda difitnah, secara sengaja atau tidak, ingatlah nasehat dari Epictus, untuk berpikir atau berkata, “O, dengan pengenalannya yang terbatas dan pengetahuannya yang sedikit tentang saya, saya hanya sedikit dikritik. Tetapi jika ia mengenal saya lebih baik, maka lebih serius dan lebih hebatlah tuduhan yang ditujukan kepada saya.

Tidaklah perlu menghabiskan waktu memperbaiki laporan-laporan palsu kecuali jika keadaan memaksa anda membuat suatu penjelasan. Musuh anda akan senang ketika ia melihat anda terluka. Inilah yang sesungguhnya diharapkannya. Jika anda acuh saja, tuduhan itu akan menghilang dengan sendirinya.

Dengan melihat kesalahan orang lain, hendaknya kita berlaku seperti orang buta. Dalam mendengar kritikan yang tidak adil kepada orang lain, hendaknya kita berlaku seperti orang tuli. Dalam membicarakan keburukan orang lain, hendaknya kita berlaku seperti orang bisu.

Adalah tidak mungkin untuk menghentikan tuduhan, laporan, maupun desas-desus yang salah. Dunia ini penuh dengan duri dan kerikil. Adalah tidak mungkin untuk memindahkan seluruhnya. Tapi, jika kita harus berjalan melewati rintangan tersebut, daripada mencoba memindahkannya, lebih baik memakai sepasang sandal dan berjalan tanpa terluka.

Dharma mengajarkan:

Berlakulah seperti seekor singa yang tidak takut akan suara apapun. Berlakulah seperti angin yang tidak terikat oleh jaring. Berlakulah seperti bunga teratai yang tidak terkotori oleh lumpur dimana ia tumbuh. Berkelanalah sendiri bagaikan seekor badak. Sebagai raja rimba, singa tidak memiliki rasa takut. Secara alamiah singa tidak dapat ditakuti oleh geraman dari binatang lain. Dalam dunia ini, kita dapat mendengar laporan palsu, tuduhan yang tidak benar, dan kata-kata hinaan. Seperti seekor singa, kita hendaknya tidak mendengarkannya. Seperti sebuah bumerang, semua akan kembali ke tempat asalnya. Anjing menggonggong tapi kafilah tetap berlalu.

Kita hidup dalam dunia yang berlumpur. Begitu banyak bunga teratai muncul dari lumpur tanpa terkotori dan menghiasi dunia. Bagaikan bunga teratai kita hendaknya mencoba menjalani kehidupan yang tidak tercela dan mulia, tidak memperdulikan lumpur yang mungkin dilemparkan kepada kita.

Kita hendaknya mengharapkan lumpur yang dilemparkan kepada, bukan bunga mawar. Dengan demikian kekecewaan tidak akan terjadi. Walaupun sulit, kita hendaknya berusaha mengembangkan ketidakterikatan. Kita datang sendiri dan kita akan pergi sendiri. Ketidakterikatan adalah suatu kebahagiaan di dunia ini.

Tanpa memperdulikan fitnahan, kita hendaknya berkelana sendiri melayani orang lain dengan seluruh kemampuan kita. Hal yang agak aneh bahwa orang-orang besar telah difitnah, dicemarkan namanya, diracun, disalib atau ditembak. Socrates yang agung telah diracun. Yesus Kristus yang mulia telah disalibkan. Mahatma Gandhi yang tidak bersalah telah ditembak.

Apakah berbahaya untuk menjadi orang yang terlalu baik? Ya, selama hidup mereka dikritik, diserang, dan dibunuh. Setelah kematiannya, mereka dipuja dan dihormati. Orang-orang besar tidak peduli akan kemahsyuran ataupun namanya tercemar. Mereka tidak marah ketika dikritik atau difitnah karena mereka bekerja bukan untuk nama baik atau kemahsyuran. Mereka tidak peduli apakah orang menghargai jasa mereka atau tidak. Mereka memiliki hak atas kerja mereka, tapi tidak atas buah yang diperolehnya (kritik dan hinaan).

Pujian Dan Celaan

Adalah hal yang wajar untuk menjadi bersemangat ketika dipuji dan menjadi tertekan ketika dicela. Dari sudut pandang duniawi, satu kata pujian dapat berdampak luas. Dengan sedikit pujian, bantuan dapat diperoleh dengan mudah. Satu kata pujian cukup untuk menarik pendengar sebelum seseorang berbicara. Jika pada awalnya seorang pembicara memuji pendengar, ia akan didengarkan. Jika ia mengkritik pendengar pada awalnya, tanggapan yang diperolehnya tidak akan memuaskan.

Orang yang bermoral tidak menggunakan sanjungan untuk mendapatkan bantuan, dan juga tidak mengharapkan untuk disanjung-sanjung oleh orang lain. Orang yang pantas dipuji akan mereka puji tanpa rasa iri. Orang yang pantas dicela akan mereka cela tidak dengan merendahkan, tetapi dilandasi kasih sayang dengan tujuan untuk memperbaiki mereka.

Bagaimana dengan celaan? Sang Buddha bersabda, “Mereka yang banyak bicara dicela. Mereka yang sedikit bicara dicela. Mereka yang diam juga dicela. Di dunia tidak ada yang tidak dicela.” Sebagian besar orang di dunia menyatakan bahwa Sang Buddha tidak disiplin, namun bagaikan seekor gajah di medan perang menahan semua panah yang ditembakkan kepadanya, Sang Buddha menahan segala hinaan.

Orang yang bermoral rendah dan jahat cenderung mencari keburukan orang lain, tetapi tidak akan mencari kebaikannya. Tidak ada orang yang sempurna baiknya. Sebaliknya tidak ada orang yang benar-benar jahat. Ada keburukan dari orang yang terbaik di antara kita. Ada kebaikan dari orang yang terjahat di antara kita.

Sang Buddha bersabda, “Ia yang berdiam diri bagaikan gong yang telah pecah ketika diserang, dihina, dan dikutuk, Saya sebut berada dalam Nibbana, walaupun ia belum mencapai Nibbana.” Pada suatu kesempatan, Sang Buddha diundang oleh seorang brahmana untuk dijamu di rumahnya. Atas undangan itu, Sang Buddha berkunjung ke rumahnya. Namun bukan menjamu-Nya, brahmana tersebut mencaci maki-Nya dengan kata-kata kotor.

Sang Buddha dengan sopan bertanya, “Apakah tamu-tamu datang ke rumah anda, brahmana yang baik?” “Ya,” jawab brahmana. “Apa yang kamu lakukan ketika tamu datang?” “Oh, kami akan menyiapkan jamuan yang mewah.” “Jika mereka tidak datang?” “Wah, dengan senang hati kita menghabiskan jamuan tersebut.” “Baiklah , brahmana yang baik. Anda mengundang saya untuk dijamu dan anda telah menjamu saya dengan caci maki. Saya tidak menerima apa-apa, silahkan anda mengambilnya lagi.” Sang Buddha tidak membalas. Tidak membalas merupakan nasehat Sang Buddha. “Kebencian tidak dapat diatasi dengan kebencian tetapi hanya dengan kasih sayang saja kebencian itu reda,” adalah ucapan mulia dari Sang Buddha.

Hinaan adalah hal yang biasa dalam kemanusiaan. Semakin banyak anda bekerja dan semakin hebat anda, anda semakin dihina dan dipermalukan. Yesus Kristus telah dihina, dipermalukan, dan disalibkan. Socrates dihina oleh istrinya sendiri. Istrinya selalu memarahinya. Suatu hari istrinya sakit dan tidak mampu melakukan tugas rutinnya yang galak. Socrates meninggalkan rumahnya hari itu dengan wajah yang sedih. Teman-temannya bertanya, “Anda seharusnya merasa gembira karena tidak memperoleh omelan yang tidak menyenangkan itu.” “Oh, tidak! Ketika ia memarahi saya, saya memperoleh kesempatan yang baik untuk melatih kesabaran. Itulah alasan mengapa saya bersedih,”

Kegembiraan dan Kesedihan

Kebahagiaan dan kesedihan adalah faktor terkuat yang mempengaruhi umat manusia. Apa yang dapat ditahan dengan mudah adalah sukkha (kebahagiaan), Apa yang sulit ditahan adalah dukkha (kesedihan). Dapatkah harta benda memberikan kebahagiaan sejati? Jika demikian, seorang milyuner tidak akan merasa frustasi akan kehidupannya. Di negara-negara maju, begitu banyak orang menderita penyakit mental. Mengapa hal ini terjadi jika harta benda saja dapat memberikan kebahagiaan?

Dapatkah kekuasaan akan seluruh dunia menghasilkan kebahagiaan? Alexander Agung, yang penuh dengan kemenangan berbaris menuju India, menaklukkan daerah-daerah di sepanjang perjalanannya, menarik nafas panjang karena tidak ada lagi daerah di bumi yang bisa dikuasai.

Kebahagiaan sejati ditemukan dalam diri kita, dan tidak dapat dinyatakan berdasarkan kekayaan, kekuasaan, kehormatan, atau penaklukkan wilayah. Apa yang menggembirakan bagi seseorang mungkin bukanlah kegembiraan bagi orang lain. Apa yang menjadi makanan dan minuman bagi seseorang mungkin merupakan racun bagi orang lain.

Menjalani hidup yang bebas dari tuduhan adalah satu dari sumber-sumber kebahagiaan terbaik bagi umat awam. Bagaimanapun, sangatlah sulit untuk memperoleh pandangan yang baik dari semua orang. Orang yang berpikiran mulia hanya peduli akan kehidupan yang tak tercela dan tidak peduli kepada tanggapan orang lain.

Kesedihan atau penderitaan datang dalam berbagai bentuk. Kita menderita ketika kita mengalami usia tua, yang sebenarnya merupakan hal yang wajar. Dengan ketenangan, kita harus menahan penderitaan karena usia tua. Lebih menyakitkan adalah penderitaan yang disebabkan oleh penyakit. Bahkan sakit gigi yang teringan atau sakit kepala terkadang sulit untuk ditahan.

Ketika kita menderita penyakit, tanpa menjadi khawatir hendaknya kita dapat menahannya, betapapun sakitnya. Kita harus menghibur diri sendiri dengan berpikir bahwa kita telah lolos dari penyakit yang lebih parah. Seringkali kita berpisah dengan orang yang dekat dan kita sayangi. Kita hendaknya menyadari bahwa segala pertemuan harus diakhiri dengan perpisahan. Kadangkala kita dipaksa berada dengan orang yang kita benci. Kita hendaknya menyesuaikan diri dengan keadaan yang baru atau mencoba mengatasi rintangan tersebut.

Bahkan Sang Buddha, mahluk yang sempurna, yang telah menghancurkan segala kekotoran batin, harus menahan penderitaan fisik yang disebabkan oleh penyakit dan kecelakaan. Sang Buddha menderita sakit kepala terus menerus. Akibat Devadatta, kaki-Nya terluka oleh pecahan batu. Kadang kala Beliau terpaksa menahan rasa lapar. Karena ketidakpatuhan murid-murid-Nya, Beliau terpaksa beristirahat di hutan selama tiga bulan, dialasi daun-daun, menentang angin dingin, Beliau mempertahankan ketenangan yang sempurna. Di antara kesakitan dan kebahagiaan Beliau hidup dengan pikiran yang seimbang.

Ketika seorang ibu ditanya mengapa ia tidak menangisi kematian tragis putra tunggalnya, ia menjawab,Tanpa diundang ia datang. Tanpa diberitahu ia pergi. Ia datang seperti ia pergi, mengapa kita harus menangis? Apakah gunanya menangis?Kematian yang tidak terhindarkan menimpa kita semua tanpa kecuali, kita harus menghadapinya dengan ketenangan yang sempurna.

Sang Buddha bersabda: “Ketika tersentuh oleh kondisi duniawi, pikiran seorang Arahat tidak pernah terpengaruhi.”

Peace of Mind


peace-of-mind-1280Peace is not something that you create; peace is not something that happens. Peace is something that always is.

Peacefulness is being projected as the highest thing because when someone has a disturbed mind, peace will be the highest goal in their perspective.

woman meditating on the beach

 Life’s Philosophy


Making Peace of Mind the Foundation of Your Life


Sadhguru speaks on the quality of peace and explains the true meaning of being peaceful. Sep 21, 2014 Source: isha

sadhgur-blog-imageSadhguru looks at why peace of mind is the A of life, not the Z of life, and explains the true meaning of being peaceful.


Sadhguru: What is peace? People say that sitting on the mountain and meditating is peace. Somebody else may drink alcohol and become very peaceful and so on. Whenever your ego is satisfied, you are very peaceful. Wherever you go, in that place, if people are willing to support and boost your ego, in that place you are very peaceful. Only in those places where your ego takes a thrashing, that is where you are not peaceful, isn’t it?

If you have to go and sit on a mountain to be peaceful, that peace is not yours, maybe it is the mountain. When you come down you will have the same problems again. Any fool can be peaceful on the mountain because you are there only for three days. If you live there for three years, you will have problems there too. Vacations are generally very short – which is a good thing. If you stay there a little longer, you will realize even that does not work. Because it is very brief, before you can create new problems you are back in your old problems. So people shouldn’t complain about the shortness of their vacation.

Generally in the world, when people talk about peace of mind, it is only about somehow making their ego comfortable. Instead of being in a disturbed state, they wish to be comfortable. But the very process of trying to make your ego comfortable is the whole process of discomfort also. The more a person tries to be peaceful, he only loses his peace and goes off track. A person who is trying to be peaceful will never actually be peaceful. Just the reverse of this process will happen.

Peace is not something that you create; peace is not something that happens. Peace is something that always is

Generally, the peace that you achieve is only about making yourself comfortable. When you look at the mountains, you are peaceful. Suddenly an elephant rushes out of the forest straight towards you — all your peace disappears. This peace is of no great significance. It is better to be disturbed because if you are disturbed, at least you will search. If you become peaceful you only become complacent. Complacence is the greatest enemy. Disturbance is not your enemy. Your complacence is the greatest enemy and this kind of peace will create only complacence.

Peace can also come out of achievement. When you have achieved something you feel very satisfied. You feel like you are complete, a whole being. This lasts just for a moment. This feeling of wholeness is not really wholeness. When your wishes are fulfilled, when your ambitions are fulfilled, or when everything is right for you, when the situation around you is comfortable for your ego and your body, these are the times when you feel peaceful generally. But this peace is not peace. Peace means nothingness. Peace is not something that you create; peace is not something that happens. Peace is something that always is. What happens on the surface is disturbance.

This is just like the ocean. On the surface of the ocean you will see waves, tremendous turbulence and turmoil going on. But if you go deep down, it is perfectly peaceful. The fundamental quality of existence is always peace.

Peace of mind is the “A” of life

Right now, most human beings think that having peace of mind is the highest goal in their life. Such people will only rest in peace. Even your dog sits peacefully if you give him enough food. Maybe he is not blissed out but at least he is peaceful. That state is considered as the highest by most human beings on this planet – including the so-called spiritual people. They say peace is the highest goal. Peace is not the highest goal. If you want to enjoy your dinner today, you must be peaceful. If you want to enjoy your family, your work, or your walk in the park, you have to be peaceful. Peace is the A of life, not the Z of life. It is the most fundamental thing. If you don’t have anything else, at least you must be peaceful.

Peacefulness is being projected as the highest thing because when someone has a disturbed mind, peace will be the highest goal in their perspective

Peacefulness is being projected as the highest thing because when someone has a disturbed mind, peace will be the highest goal in their perspective. Whatever you are deprived of, that becomes the highest thing in your life.

When I was in Israel some time ago, I was taken to a restaurant where a dinner was arranged. There are different types of restaurants. Some restaurants are known for good food. Some are famous for their ambience. But some are famous for the conversation that happens there. In Tel Aviv, this was the restaurant which was supposed to have the most intellectual conversations.

People started coming in and one person said “Shalom” to me. I said “Namaste” and asked, “What does Shalom mean?” He replied, “This is the highest way of greeting. It means peace.” I said, “Why is peace the highest way of greeting?” For me, peace is not the highest way of greeting. Maybe if you are born in the Middle East, peace is the highest way of greeting because every day you see so much happening around you. If people are dying in your neighborhood, you will definitely think peace is the highest way of living. But if everything is peaceful around you, you are looking for some excitement.

To be peaceful is definitely not the ultimate goal because only if you are peaceful and joyful will your body and mind work at their best – and that is the basic parameter for your success and efficiency in the world. Your efficiency and your productivity is not dependent on your desire to do something, it is dependent on your capability. Your capability is impaired when you are in some state of unhappiness, frustration or depression. So, if you are interested in productivity, the first and foremost thing is to create a pleasant basis for yourself, that to be peaceful and joyful is not an issue for you. It does not depend on anything – this is how you are. Now, your body and mind will work at their best, and you can effortlessly create what you want to create.



One Buddha Teaching that will Tell You More About Yourself Than Anything Else




In Buddhism one of the ‘Three Characteristics’ is No-Self (the other two are impermanence and suffering which are closely associated with this). This refers to the illusion of reality having a permanent and separate self.

There is this notion that there is a permanent “I” or “me,” which is a separate entity that can be found. The obvious assumption of we are our body sounds good until we look at it and say “this is my body,” which implies at that moment that whatever owns the body wasn’t the body. The observer and the observed; duality denies our body being what we are. It is also in a state of impermanence, and at a sensate level it is made up of energy flickering at a similar rate to reality.

Perhaps thoughts are the “I.” They may seem more like the true “me” than the body does. But they come and go and are changing constantly too, as well as the majority of them not being under our control at all. They too aren’t something solid enough to assume they are the “I.” The ego is a process of identification with reality (physical and mental phenomena), not a thing in and of itself; it is like a bad habit. Not being a thing, it cannot be destroyed as some people say, but by understanding our bare experience, our mind, the process of identification can stop.

There is also something frequently called the “watcher” or “observer,” which is observing all of these phenomena. Strangely, the watcher can’t be found either, as it seems to sometimes be our eyes, sometimes not; sometimes it’s images in our head; sometimes it seems to be our body and sometimes it’s watching the body. It seems odd that this watcher to which all of this is being perceived by, which seems separate from reality and which seems in control of “us” is constantly changing and completely unfindable.

One of the biggest clues in solving this mystery is that if we are observing it, then by definition it isn’t us. Reality is made up entirely of sensations, and to begin to unravel this mystery is to begin to awaken. Reality with a sense of a separate watcher is a delusion. So who or what is it that awakens?


In short, it’s all of this transience that awakens! Here’s an explanation, keep in mind this is an attempt at summarising something quite complicated.

No-Self teachings directly counter the sense that there is a separate watcher, and that this watcher is “us” that is in control, observing reality or subject to the tribulations of the world. These teachings stop the process of mentally creating the illusion of a separate self from sensations that are inherently non-dual and utterly transient.

buddhaThere are physical phenomena (everything we perceive with our senses) and mental phenomena (thoughts, feelings, emotions). These are just phenomena, and all phenomena aren’t a permanent, separate self as they are completely impermanent and are intimately interdependent. These phenomena arise and pass as we venture through reality, i.e. the sound of a bird singing comes into existence and then dissipates.

There is also awareness of these phenomena, but awareness is not a thing or localised in a particular place, so to even say “there is awareness” is already a large problem, as it implies separateness and existence of it where none can be found. Awareness is permanent and unchanging, and it is said that all things arise from it, and all things return to it. It could be called God, Nirvana, The Tao, Allah, the present moment, the Buddha nature or just awareness.

While phenomena are in flux from their arising to their passing, there is awareness of them. Thus, awareness is not these phenomena, as it is not a thing, nor is it separate from these objects, as there would be no experience if this were so.


True-Self teachings point out that we actually are all these phenomena, rather than them being seen as observed. As phenomena are observed, they can’t possibly be the observer.

Thus, the observer, which is awareness, cannot possibly be a phenomenon and thus is not localised and therefore doesn’t exist. Duality implies something on both sides: an observer and an observed. However, there is no phenomenal observer, so duality doesn’t hold up under careful investigation. When the illusion of duality permanently collapses in awakening, in direct experience, all that is left is these phenomena, which is the True Self.

There’s a great little Buddhist poem by Kalu Rinpoche that sums all this up:

We live in illusion and the appearance of things.
There is a reality, we are that reality.
When you understand this, you will see “you” are nothing.
And, being nothing, you are everything.

Source: The Open Mind



How to Use Meditation and Mindfulness to Improve Your Life



With everyday stresses putting pressure on all of our lives, it sometimes becomes hard to feel motivated and with the weight of the world on your shoulders, you may become unhappy with your life.

Meditation and Mindfulness are two approaches that are generally associated with relaxation and appreciating the world around you, however they can also be used as a part of everyday life to improve our mindset and the way we live.

Mindfulness is the act of becoming aware of everything around you, how you’re feeling and the stream of consciousness that flows through your mind. Noticing and appreciating the thoughts that enter and leave our minds is a good way to remind ourselves that every thought does indeed come and go, much like everything else in life, namely our problems.

One of the ways people experience mindfulness is through meditation and this can give you the tools to be centred, calm and happy in any situation.

Improve your life:

5 minutes every morning can increase your chances of a better day.

Just 5 minutes of meditation helps you to start your day in a relaxed state, with a clear mind, and it allows you can determine your focus for the day ahead. Waking up slightly earlier and working meditation into your routine, even for five minutes a day, can have enormous benefits on your health. Use this time to prepare for the day ahead and to visualise how you’d like the day to go – you are in control of your day.

It can help you discover the answers to difficult problems in life.

Sometimes we need to discuss problems in order to come to a conclusion, but often this isn’t possible as other people may not always be available. Spending time each day to consider each problem and their potential solutions, in turn, may give you the answer you’ve been looking for. Focusing on one problem at a time and entering into the calm meditative state may be what you need to discover the answers you need in order to move forward.

Meditation reduces anxiety & allows you to focus on the positive.

Being able to focus on positive thoughts and letting the negative ones flowing out of your mind will make you feel happier, fact. Putting positive energy out into the world and consciously thinking positive thoughts will impact the way you subconsciously think too. Feeling positive and being accepting of negative thoughts naturally reduces anxiety and allows you to develop a calm mindset.

It allows you to let go of pain.

Everyone is holding onto baggage that they push to the back of their mind and refuse to acknowledge. Being mindful of this painful memory can help you come to terms with it, accepting it as part of life and eventually no longer allowing it to affect you in the same way. Letting go of these painful moments makes you feel less bitter which will, in turn, improve the way you see the world.

Being mindful and practicing meditation takes time, but the advantages outweigh the time it takes to learn the skill. Once you begin to understand your mind and accept your feelings, there’s no limit to the possibilities ahead of you.

Source: LifeAdvancer

30 Simple Things You Don’t Realize You Do That Impress Everyone Around You



One the biggest mistakes people make when they’re trying to impress someone is that they assume people only pay attention to the important or “big” things they do. But the reality is that the little things are what matter most. It’s the little things we do or don’t do every day that shape us in to who we are. The little things determine how we respond when big things come in to our lives.

The kind of image you present to the world is determined by your actions, comments, attitude, behavior and even appearance. These things can be noticed within the first few seconds of meeting someone. So, how do you let people know who you really are? How do you impress everyone around you without big gestures or a lot of time? These 30 things might be simple, but they have a big impact. Their effects are lasting. People will remember the little things you do and that can make the difference you’re looking for.

1. Dress the Part

Your appearance is the thing people see first. They look at your clothes, hair, shoes, etc. They make assumptions about you before you even open your mouth. If you want to impress people, dress for the occasion. Take time to get ready in the morning.

2. Be on Time

If you’re late for something, you’re giving someone the opportunity to judge you without you even being there. If you say you’re going to be somewhere at a certain time, then be there at that time. Waiting for someone when they should already be there is frustrating and annoying.

3. Don’t Break your Promises

There are too many people out there making promises they know they can’t keep. They promise something because it makes the other person feel better in that moment. The problem with that is that down the road, when you don’t follow through, the comfort that person felt turns into discouragement, frustration and even anger. If you can’t keep a promise, don’t make it. If you do make a promise, do everything you can to keep it.

4. Respect Others

This includes your elders, minors, co-workers, family members, etc. This can be hard when you have to be around someone who has differing opinions than you, or who acts in a way you don’t approve of. But you can still be civil. If you look for attributes you respect in people, you will find them.

5. Be Involved

If you support going green, then go green in your life. If you support your local government, then attend community meetings. Be a part of the things that matter to you.

6. Say, “Please,” and, “Thank you,” often

These are small words, but they go a long way. Expressing your gratitude to people, even for the smallest acts of kindness, shows that you see the good in people; it shows that you pay attention to the things people around you are doing and saying.

7. Smile Often

Smiles are contagious. If a stranger walks past you at the store and smiles, it is a natural response to smile back. Seeing someone smile can remind others that there are things to be grateful for, that life is fun and exciting.

8. Don’t be Constantly using your Phone

When you are with someone, be with them. Phones are an amazing piece of technology. But they are also a distraction. Use your phone when it’s appropriate. You don’t need it out every second of every day.

9. Be Faithful to Your Partner

We hear story after story about divorces and infidelity. It’s everywhere. By being honest and true with your partner, you are showing that you know where your priorities are. You understand what it means to be in a healthy relationship.

10. Support Your Children

Take time to be involved in your kids’ lives. Know what they’re interested in. Go their games, recitals, competitions, parent-teacher conferences, etc. Listen when they talk to you. Be the kind of parent they know they can go to when they have questions.

11. Personal Hygiene isn’t an Option, it’s a Requirement

Have breath mints handy. Wear deodorant. Brush your teeth. Wear clean clothes. These are things that should be common sense, but some people really struggle with them. Talking to someone with bad breath is gross. It’s distracting. All you can think about is that you want to give them a mint. Take care of your personal hygiene and people will be more focused on what you’re saying and doing instead of how you smell.

12. Speak Clearly and Make Eye Contact

Let the person you’re talking to know that you are engaged in the conversation and that you care about what you’re discussing. Don’t mumble or look around, keep your focus on them.

13. Don’t Chew Gum

This can depend on the type of situation you’re in. If you’re with family hanging out or with close friends at the movies, gum is fine. But in a professional situation, gum is distracting.

14. Use Humor

This can lighten the mood and bring people down from a tense state. Just make sure you’re using this at appropriate times.

15. Greet People with a Handshake or Hug

Determine what type of situation you’re in. You probably don’t want to go in to an interview and hug your potential boss, but you should offer them a firm handshake. With close friends and family members a hug shows a level of intimacy. It shows that you love and care about them and gives you a way to physically express that.

16. Be True to Yourself

Know what you want out of life and do everything you can to achieve it.

17. Listen to Others

When someone is talking to you, listen to what they are saying. Don’t be thinking of a response while they are still talking.

18. Perform Acts of Kindness

Open the door for someone, collect your neighbor’s mail when they go out town, make dinner for someone who just had a baby.

19. Be Organized

Have a schedule and know what you have going on. Know where things are in your house, at work, in your car, etc.

20. Compliment People

Look for the good in people around you and take the time to let them know you noticed. Compliment them on their clothes, their work, their attitude, anything you can think of.

21. Share Knowledge and Information with Others

When you have a skill or talent, share it. Teach others and share what you know and have learned.

22. Be Positive and Focus on the Good

This can be hard when times are tough, but it’s possible. Look for the solution instead of focusing on the problem. Stay positive.

23. Help Others

Help when and where you can. In most cases, chances to serve aren’t always at the most opportune times, but sacrificing your time to help someone in need says a lot about you.

24. Keep a Clean Car

Take your car through the car wash every so often. Clean out the inside. Don’t let garbage pile up. You never know when you’re going to have to give someone a ride.

25. Care about People

Don’t build up a wall to “protect” your feelings. Let yourself feel, let yourself care for people.

26. Don’t Take Offense

Things will be said and people will do things, purposefully or accidentally, that could hurt you. You can choose to be offended or to move past it.

27. Own up to Your Mistakes

When you make a mistake, admit it, own up to it, do what you can to fix it and move on.

28. Take Advantage of Experiences Life Has to Offer

If you get the opportunity to go somewhere new, learn a new talent or try something new, do it! Enjoy life.

29. Know What’s Going on in the World

Be up to date on recent news, both local and global. Be informed.

30. Travel

The world is a big place. Take the time to go out and meet new people, learn new cultures and make new memories.

Source: LifeHack